The Typical Pinoy Hero Complex Is Another Reason Why Obligations Can't Be Met

Just lately, a term which I've overlooked for some time is called the hero complex. The term hero complex can be defined when a person strives to be the hero or heroine of the situation where they want to make it that they're the ones who save the day. Sometimes, the hero complex may also carry with it a selfish desire to look good at the expense of others or even one's self. This COVID-19 crisis may have also inadvertently revealed more of the typical hero complex among Pinoys. Some are doing all their lame virtue-signaling even during the COVID-19 crisis such as in regards to the death of Baby River. Some of them are tweeting and writing whatever they could online to ruin the administration in hopes that they will look good. That's what virtue signaling is all about - displaying outrage to make yourself look good. That's what's going on with the typical Pinoy hero complex which causes obligations not to be met at all.

Though, we may want to make a bit of a jet tour of past and present observations about the typical Pinoy hero complex. What causes obligations not to be met? I was thinking about experiences I had whether it'd be bad tenants or bad employees. Here's an observation that can be made as the employer gives his or her warning about termination. Rather than promise to do better and be better - the employee will start begging for "mercy" since he or she may have children going to school or is educating a relative. However, in my experience, one of my manual labor workers in the past was using his salary to raise his lazy nephew. Another experience was that the worker wasn't educating a relative - he was simply giving money to his lazy nephew for GAMBLING. Doesn't that sound familiar to what happened why the DSWD recently decided to stop giving 4Ps to certain recipients this COVID-19? 

Then you've got those who, when they've got money, start to have their sense of importance by spending it for others. I was reminded of household maids who work not to support only themselves or direct family but also friends and relatives who DO NOTHING. It's typical to have maids who feel important because they were supporting younger siblings' along with nephews and nieces. Other poor people I know would let their children work while studying in college. I wonder why don't they at least encourage their relatives to also have jobs? Some people volunteer to be maids and other service sector workers not to pay for somebody else's tuition but to PAY FOR THEIR OWN TUITION. They should encourage those who are studying to also work and not rely solely on them. I wonder do they even feel good when their friends and relatives tend to solely rely on them?

What excuses would utak squatter tenants have for not paying rent after the lockdown is over? It just reminds me of the typical excuse that they spent this and that for someone. For example, rather than just simply held a helping hand - they may even end up paying for the FULL AMOUNT of the hospitalized loved one. Some even went as far as to also give (for free) a huge amount of payment for funeral expenses. They choose to have their hero complex fed rather than to slowly pay their obligations considering that their lessors also LOST A LOT during the COVID-19 lockdown. With businesses reopening - it's time to slowly but surely repay one's obligations. Also, even if they were closed but they were considered still RENTING or LIVING in that space, right?  

This also reminds me of why a lot of OFW families remain POOR. Yes, it does happen and Paul Farol of Get Real Philippines (GRP) wrote a similar article before I did. I could remember the whole idea of working abroad is because you'd like to give a better life for your family. However, is jut just family, or are we now having EXTENDED family members along with friends who DO NEARLY NOTHING? Sure, they do have BIGGER SALARIES abroad but why do many OFW families well, remain poor? The big keywords are OVERSPENDING, WORK ETHICS, and LEECHES. They arrive from abroad with PLENTY OF MONEY. The big question is what do they do with that lots of money? Rather than save it for a rainy day - unfortunately, Benign0 of GRP is RIGHT about it that they will just waste it. Waste it on friends and relatives who do almost nothing! 

Consider this typical set-up of what Christmas is for OFWs as portrayed above. The OFW is in some other country (which many are also in the Middle East) DOING HARD WORK. However, you can see that the Christmas season is usually wasted with useless festivities. It's really expected that not budgeting for Christmas and the New Year is the norm among many Filipinos. Backing it up is the employed Filipino with the hero complex. I guess they don't mind that they're already wasting money on useless people as long as they become that "hero". I guess that's why so many bought the hype that the OFWs are the "bagong bayani" (new heroes) which was also emphasized in Nora Aunor's song "Kahit Konting Awa" (Just a Little Mercy) from the Flor Contemplacion Story by VIVA Films. It was that film that tried to paint Flor as a heroine. It was also the very justification of the existence of the leftist group known as Migraine International. This is no longer heroism but a form of sadomasochism by OFWs. OFWs who are feeding lazy friends and relatives shouldn't be considered heroes at all. 

This also reminds me of what I wrote about toxic relationships being more fun in the Philippines. They end up sheltering friends and relatives who are TOXIC and they wonder why their lives don't improve. If they want to be heroes then stop having the hero complex. They really need to let those friends and relatives work on their own. Then again that can only cease to become the norm if the Philippines becomes more open to foreign direct investors. If there's more jobs available then certainly the less Filipinos will end up having hero complex for friends and relatives who do nothing but leech on them.