Many Filipinos Need To Stop Having The Wrong Kind Of Sympathy For Their Fellow Filipinos

If there's the problem of Filipinos with the "feeling oppressed" mentality then there's also the problem of Filipinos with the wrong kind of sympathy. It reminds me of certain mentalities like the pro-squatter mentality, kawawa and pinagalitan (feeling sorry for the one who's been admonished) mentality, and that really annoying, "You must stand by your fellow Filipino no matter what!" mentality.

Mendicancy is a big problem in the Philippines. That's why I'm in favor of anti-mendicancy laws. Give a poor person fish and that person will only have a meal for a day. Teach them how to fish (or give them work to be more literal) and that person will have a meal for a lifetime. The problem is that some Filipinos allow themselves to be leeched at and for what? For the sake of KKK which is kamag-anak (relatives), kapamilya (family) and kaibigan (friends)? Is it worth it to spend your hard-earned money on them when they do nothing but leech out your finances at the cost of you and your family?

Marie Kondo said, "If your relatives are causing you to have a load of burden then throw them out." This is the problem of many Filipinos' mentality of standing by family and relatives. If there's one reason why many OFWs tend to remain poor then you can blame it to those who use their hard-earned money on friends and relatives who DO NOTHING back in the Philippines. Instead of using the hard-earned money to at least get the family out of poverty -- they would rather return, spend and then you're poor again.

Sometimes, your fellow Filipino may be suffering from the results of one's own actions. No money? You might as well blame it on an overspending lifestyle. Some people are already so poor yet they still overspend. It's like you buy an airconditioner and a car when you can't pay for the additional fees that come with them. It's like eating in a fancy restaurant all the while you are unable to pay for your basic meals. I don't care if the person invested a lot in that business. If he or she isn't going to handle that business properly then it's going to crash. If your business partner is leeching on you then you might as well cut ties with said person.

It's time to consider the principle of utilitarianism. It's all about think of the greater good. Should you try to please your friends and relatives who do nothing or should you focus on your family's basic needs? Should you care more about your long friendship or should you care more about trustworthiness? These are but a few questions many Filipinos need to ask themselves sot heyw ill stop having the wrong kind of sympathy.